When people think of a psychopath they naturally think of people like Christian Bale’s character in American Psycho or the guy Anthony Hopkins played in Silence of the Lambs; the kind of person who goes on psychotic murdering sprees; when in fact, the guy we share a bed with every night could possess some of the same psychotic traits…
1. Great sex. Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it’s the best thing they’ve ever experienced. A psychopath goes out of his way to please you. It’s just another way of getting you hooked. Once he has you hooked, you’ll find yourself begging for sex because he suddenly won’t want it anymore.
2. Cracks in the mask. A psychopath will sometimes blurt out something odd about himself, apropos of nothing. Like you might be cooking dinner and suddenly he blurts, “I’m crazy you know.” Or “I’m cheating on you.” He will then either deny he said it or play it off as a joke. A form of keeping you off balance — but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his personal
3.They manipulated your sympathy. At the start, they had a story about a hard childhood, a bunny-boiling ex, a recovery from cancer, or something else designed to elicit sympathy in you. It was probably short on verifiable detail and unlikely to be true. The purpose was to gain your pity and attachment. We are much less judgmental about people we feel sorry for and much more likely to reveal our vulnerabilities to them.
4. They surround themselves with fans. Once you are hooked, they will start keeping company with other people – new potential partners. This is to remind you that you are lucky to have them and that they have plenty of other options. As a result, you feel constant anxiety about your relationship.
5. They have no past. You will rarely be introduced to anyone who knows them from before you met. These people will not give good reviews, so you are kept away from them.
6. They will sabotage and sever your relationships. They will work hard to cut you off from your friends and family. They will work to make you feel uncomfortable around the people you used to feel most comfortable with. They want you to be dependent and loyal only to them. They do not want other people telling you your partner is a nutbag. They are jealous and they will actively exclude potential partners from your life.
7. They are parasitic. You pay for almost everything. They will move into your home. They will use your car. They will often need to borrow money from you.
8. You become yesterday’s news. Once they have hooked you, you seem to suddenly bore them. They give you the silent treatment and rebuff you for trying to rekindle the relationship you thought you had. They will sometimes disappear for days at a time with no contact and no explanation. They are usually working on the next conquest during this time, or are simply two- (or three-) timing you. If they sense this pushes you too far, you will get a little more love-bombing to reel you back in.