Even for the most accomplished Casanova, reclaiming love after it has been lost is a tricky endeavor. Nothing about it is simple, or straightforward, and contrary to what rom-coms have been telling you all these years, sleeping on her doorstep is not a no-fail route to changing her mind.
If she’s said goodbye, it’s possible she meant exactly what she said. But it’s also very possible she’s open to a full-fledged win-me-back operation. The only thing we know for sure is that you’ll need our advice.
It happens all the time, people lose their girlfriends and they want them back, but it doesn’t happen. The reason why it doesn’t happen, is because you don’t know the tips and tricks that actually work. If you want to get an ex back, there are some things that you need to consider. The following are the best tips that you can take with you today to ensure that you’re going to get the upper hand in your life. These take time, so don’t think that you’re going to get through with this overnight. Take your time, gain some confidence and hit these notes in getting your ex girlfriend back.
1. Cut The Communication Element
The first thing that you need to do is simple, stop talking to them. You need to drop communication completely. You absolutely need to stop this overall. Many people feel the need to text them back, call them back, or just try to be in their sight. Don’t do that. You have to cut everything out. Walk away, stop talking, stop texting, and walk away from social media. When you talk to them after the break up, you’re going to end up causing them to think that you’re not quite as good as she once thought. You don’t want her to justify the reason why she walked away.
2. Create Value By Being Absent
Some people try to be there for their ex. They walk their dog, they show up at their door with some gifts, and other things. This hinders your value, and makes them wish you were gone. Aside from cutting off communication, it’s imperative that you are not visible. You cannot be seen by her, by your own doing. This will create value, as absence makes the heart grow fonder. You’ll force her to think about you, and will not let her have control, you’ll be in control.
The next thing that you need to do has nothing to do with your ex directly. You need to work on yourself. Get to the gym, start running, find something new. Get new friends, and change up your life. You have to do this, so that the point where her friends chime in to see how you’re doing, they’ll relay to her that you’re actually not sweating the break up. Also, you’re going to actually help yourself, and perhaps find a way to your next relationship. You’ll be surprised by this completely.
If, after you take time to yourself and think you’ve understood some of what went wrong, you still want to get back together, then it’s time to get back in touch.
Whatever method you choose, make sure to keep the message light and playful.
A message saying “We have to talk” or “I want to get back together” is way too heavy and is not going to make her eager to see you. Show her that easy, breezy version of you she knew when you first started dating.
5. Figure out what went wrong
The first step to getting her back to is to really take a long minute to think about what went wrong. The key to making things work is to fully understand the original issue so as to not repeat it. No woman is going to take you back if you still have no idea why you broke up.
Of course, you can go on thinking that something simply changed in her, but most likely she had been dropping hints near the end of your relationship as to what she needed from you and what she wanted to change.
6. Focus on what you want
During these weeks away, take time to focus on you. Be single and enjoy it, and take the time to live your life free of compromise and really evaluate who you are and what you want.
Go to the gym, go out with your friends, make new friends, pick up a hobby. There’s nothing sexier than a guy with his own life. This will help you re-establish your self-worth and get that spring back in your step.
Even though this time’s for you, there is no harm in sampling who else may be out there in the dating world — unless you’re 100% certain that you want her back. If after these two weeks of ‘you’ time you still want her back, move on to the next step.
7. Take some time apart
The No. 1 rule to any breakup is to take some time apart. Don’t contact her for at least two weeks.
This is because breakups can be emotionally draining, and you need some time to breathe, calm down and take some time to put things into a logical perspective.
Time apart will allow everything to cool down and be less emotionally charged. Plus, it gives you time to evaluate how you feel about the breakup, where things went wrong, and whether or not you really want to get her back
Following the above you would definitely get you ex back.
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