Funny, charming people aren’t born that way. Jovial People aren’t burn that way.
They were born just like anyone else, but they learnt to be funny along the way.
During our formative years and our childhood, we start to pick up traits and characters that we see all around us.
But if you haven’t picked up the funny bone influence from past experiences, don’t worry about it.
Making friends can be easy if you have the right mindset. People generally like cheery, friendly, funny individuals, so bringing out those aspects of your personality so that people can see them is important. With a little bit of strategy, you’ll be making friends in no time!
1.Just be yourself.
Don’t be afraid to express your opinions. Do not act like someone other than yourself. If someone insults you, just ignore them. The people who are jealous and hate you will be outnumbered by the people who love you for being yourself. Play to your strengths.If you are shy or reserved, play up your mysterious side. Be friendly and open to people, but don’t be an open book. If people are interested in what makes you click, they’ll try to get closer to you to find out.If you’re into sports, use your athletic skill to boost your confidence. Just don’t be cocky. The people who are great at sports but who are still humble get a lot of attention. Be that person. Don’t be the stereotypical jock who picks on the nerds because he’s insecure.
2.Start developing good social skills.
Not everyone is born with great social skills, but they can definitely be developed. With the right training and exposure, you can really make a difference in your confidence and your impressions quickly.Be Patient. Talking to strangers is never easy. But the more you do it, the easier it will get. Give conversations time to develop. Hang around people and conversations will naturally develop.Make eye contact. This is important as a lot is conveyed through your eyes and when you avoid looking at someones eyes they may think you are lying or not interested. It is proved by psychology that creating an eye contact is really a great social skill which will help you do develop healthy relationships. Be forgiving. Your friends and classmates are bound to make mistakes. Don’t hold every last thing against them. Forgive a friend if they come to you with an apology.Be loyal. Little things count. If you make an appointment, be on time. If you’re in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you have nothing to say at the moment).Stick up for your friends. If one of them gets in a fight, try to break it up and calm them down. Don’t let people say stupid, mean things about your friends and get away with it.Don’t gossip. Gossip is like a boomerang: it will always come back to hit you. Don’t develop a reputation as a gossiper. Only say things about people that you’d be comfortable saying to their face.
3.Outward appearance matters.
Dress Well. The way you look isn’t the ticket to getting people to like you, but it can help. Make sure you’re sending other people great body language.Be unique, be yourself.Wash regularly, smell nice, and brush your teeth. Take a shower once a day. (Wash your hair every other day.) Wear a clean-smelling deodorant or a bit of perfume if you’re a girl. Brush your teeth at least twice a day, and floss at least once.Smile as much as you can! Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying. Smiling is a way of letting other people know you’re happy as well, and people want to be around others who are happy.Pay attention to the body language you’re sending other people. Crossed arms, tapping feet, rolling eyes and sighing are all signs of boredom, exasperation, and disappointment. Make sure you’re sending people the right messages with your body.
4.Think positive. The art of being funny or humorous starts with positivity. Be optimistic in your approach towards life, and develop the ability to always look at the bright side of everything.
5.Have a cheerful laugh. A person who has a pleasant laugh or a warm smile plastered on their face while meeting friends or someone new comes across as a likeable and fun person to spend time with. If you want to be funny, you have to start by being seen as a fun and likeable person.
6.The kind of company you keep. Spend time with your friends, and meet new friends that you think are fun to spend time with. The kind of company you keep can change your outlook towards life. When you spend time with people who love to have a laugh all the time, you’ll be able to watch and learn while working on your own humor at the same time.
7.Comedy shows. Sometimes, a bit of inspiration from somewhere can help you get funnier faster. Just like how autobiographies of successful people can help you achieve more in life, watching standup comedy or comedy flicks will definitely make you a funnier and happier person.
And when you’re watching the comedy shows, don’t just listen to the funny lines. Watch how the characters on screen behave and move when they speak funny. After all, being funny isn’t all in the lines you say. The way you behave can make a huge difference to your funny bone.