It’s very easy to figure out whether a girl has gotten emotionally attached to a guy. As women, we tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves and pride ourselves on being open books. Men, on the other hand, tend to try to hide their feelings for as long as they can.
When it comes to all of the relationship advice questions received, this ranks near the top. If you’re honest with yourself, you will admit that you have asked yourself this before.
This ties into what we were talking about earlier (hanging out without sex). You may find yourself in situations where you ask that you guys spend time together and your male friend will say, “Okay, but sex?”, “First, sex?”, “And after that, sex?”. It might not be in those exact words (although, it depends on who you tend to associate with), but the sentiment is the same.
He might be willing to put up with the terrible ordeal of spending time with you, as long as you promise sex. While a man who is emotionally attracted to you will still desire and enjoy sex with you (duh), he won’t put it first and he won’t bring it up every two minutes.
One of the most obvious signs (but one that you may not take as such) is the simple fact of a man choosing to spend time with you. Look, I will be honest. It may sound harsh, but a man who is only interested in sex is not going to waste his time “hanging out” or talking. As soon as a guy gets what he is really after (in this case, sexual satisfaction), he will go his merry way.
And whatever you may think, he will absolutely not hang out if the possibility of sex is off the table. Sorry.
If you take the time to notice the subtle signs, a man who is emotionally attracted to you will be happy to spend time with you in any capacity, even if it’s just on a friendly level.
3.He listens to what you have to say
Remember what I was saying earlier about how we hate talking? Well, we’re not that great at listening, either. I know, we’re “The Worst”. Anyway, this piece of information is going to end up being extremely useful to you. Why? Because this is one of the ways in which you can identify emotional attraction on his part.
We’re a bit of a clueless bunch and women are frequently frustrated with us for our shortcomings, like when it comes to social skills. I’m sure you’ve noticed the general lack of enthusiasm for emotional discussions and listening to you vent.
It’s a stereotype, but we all know that stereotypes have formed because of real life events that are… TRUE. Men don’t like to talk about emotional things most of the time. They don’t open up, they don’t cry and they don’t whine. Well, the good ones don’t at least.
5.He goes the extra mile for you.
By the time you’re 20, you already know what most typical guys will be willing to do for a girl. They may be willing to buy you dinner or a Valentine’s Day present, but that’s about it. If the guy that you’re seeing is showering you with gifts that he can’t afford, it’s very likely that he’s extremely emotionally invested in you and is trying to make it known through his actions.
6.He gives you a look that’s both happy and teary-eyed.
You know that look you get when you’re looking at something that you’ve always wanted, and finally have? That’s the look a man gives when he’s deeply in love with a woman. It’s a look of bliss, adoration, and at the same time, admiration. That look is one that can’t easily be replicated, even by top actors in Hollywood.
It’s rare to actually see a guy give this look in person, but once you see it, it’ll become unmistakeable for the rest of your life.